“It’s never too early to think about what kind of parents you want to become.”
Core Values for Life holds bi-weekly video conference calls for college and young professionals to explore topics on the qualities essential to raising a healthy God-centered family. In the most recent call held on April 1, CVL participants posed the question, “What kind of parents do you want to become?”
Being a parent also means being a leader. Parents set the tradition and culture for their children and family, showing how important it really is to think about what kind of lifestyle you want to demonstrate for your kids. “When you’re thinking about becoming a parent, you often think about what not to do as a parent,” shared one young mother, “But as you become a parent, you realize you’ve inherited habits from your parents. It really is an uphill battle to change things.”
Everyone on the call agreed that education for family life starts young, even from birth. The process of growing oneself is continuous. “Kids eventually realize that their parents aren’t perfect,” said a young father, “Therefore, I agree, I’d rather be a father that constantly strives to continue growing. I’m also trying to get my kids excited when they make a lot of effort. Trying hard is more important than being lucky or just being talented.”
One young man still looking forward to married life expressed the gratitude he felt to his own parents, “My father made me feel responsible for my life of faith. He didn’t cram anything down my throat. He somehow stimulated my own sense of responsibility. That’s something I appreciate and would like to inherit from him; the ability to give space and the appropriate time to develop.”
This energizing video call on parenthood brought together young people from all stages of family life. The diverse participating audience ranged from single to engaged, married, expecting and already-parents of young children.
Family Peace Association believes marriage is a blessing from God that grants couples the gift of co-creation with God as they build God-centered families by bringing new life into this world. Learn more about FPA’s education and programs on Marriage and Family.
“This group is about creating an environment of caring. This building of fellowship is where the real impact happens. It starts with sharing a meal and then sharing what we value and what we are passionate about.” – Ken Bates
Seattle community parent, Ken Bates welcomes families to the weekly parent meeting.
In an effort to establish an honest, open platform for parents to address important topics in the Seattle community, Saturday meetings for parents were set up in conjunction with the meeting times for Middle and High School CVA. Special thanks goes out to Ken Bates who volunteered to coordinate these gatherings.
Now in it’s second month, the Parents Meetings are a time for current and future parents to get to know other members of the community more deeply and take an active role in supporting each other’s spiritual growth. Parents alternate providing a delicious potluck for the CVA kids, volunteers, and other parents, making the gathering a warm, exciting place to spend a weekend evening with friends and family.
The most unique feature of Summer 2015 was indisputably the 40-Day workshop for young Blessed couples, taking place in Seattle, WA for the first 20 days and in Seoul, Korea for the latter in conjunction with the Jr. Leadership Task Force workshop.
The US portion consisted of Divine Principle education, lectures on Father’s course, a Core Values seminar and an adventure hike — all geared toward helping the young couples understand God’s expectations for Blessed Families and make a determination to build ideal families based on God’s ideal of Creation.
“I’m saying that first and foremost in order to be qualified as mature men and women to receive the Blessing, you first have to establish a relationship with Heavenly Father…The ideal situation is that two individuals, a young man and a young woman, reach a state of spiritual maturity where they want to make an offering to Heavenly Father. And it is upon that condition of offering that God blesses them in the ceremony of the Blessing centered upon the vertical axial line that God can bless them to stand in the position of husband and wife and recognize that union eternally.”
– Hyun Jin Nim (2015.07.01)
The second half of the workshop was an opportunity for young couples to practice and experience what they learned by acting as role models for their younger brothers and sisters in the Jr. LTF workshop. Many Jr. LTF participants have commented that having their Blessed elder siblings join them has encouraged them to grow as God’s true sons and daughters in preparation for their own Blessing. The Blessed couples are determined to set a new precedent of receiving the Blessing for the greater good of humanity and offering their lives to creating families that inspire others.
Here is a testimony from one of the 40-day workshop participants:
“This workshop definitely reassured that everything starts from God. God’s purpose determines our value. We are created by God, out of His true love, within His principles and values, for the purpose of us creating ideal families that eventually create an ideal world that is filled with true love and happiness (families and a world where He can freely and fully interact with us because our hearts are like His.)
Ohnshil Kim (right) completing the Divine Principle study portion of the 40-Day Workshop.
We have such great examples like True Father and Hyun Jin Nim. Nevertheless, I’ve realized from looking back and seeing what happened in our movement and where we are now, that it is not enough to be relieved and grateful that we have these examples. What we lacked were first, knowing clearly what God’s purpose of creation is, understanding his ideal and expectations of us and like Hyun Jin Nim says many times, having alignment and ownership, absolute faith, absolute love and absolute obedience. It is our responsibility to learn from Father and Hyun Jin Nim about the kind of attitude, perspective and heart they have when facing life and how they, despite everything, continue to walk strongly a path for God and practice that in our daily lives–to be like them instead of passively following them.”