On Father’s Day, we remember Dad, who always made time for each of us.
Dad was a “very important person.” He would take very important calls in the quiet hours of the morning. He would travel to the far corners of the world to attend “very important” meetings. He had to make “very important” decisions for work. He did “very important” things for the world.
But, he was never too important to be present when he was home.
When he was home, he always made sure to give the “very important” people in his family 100% of himself.
Even when he was in a deep conversation with guest in the living room, he paused and kneeled down and responded when his toddler son pulled at his pant leg.
Even when he sat in his home office with deep furrows in his brow contemplating the next strategic plan, he wiped his face clean to greet his teenage daughter when she peaked around the door to ask if she could talk to him about something.
Even while preparing for a major organizational annual meeting, he made time to sit down and have coffee to advise his growing son on life’s challenges.
Even when his children grew up, had families of their own and moved, he used holidays to touch base and checking in on his children’s career and life developments and his grandchildren.
As a result, his children have grown to honor themselves the same way Dad honored them. They listen carefully to their conscience and intuition. They make and take their goals seriously. They face their challenges with honesty and confidence.
The relationships in his family are deep and because of that, the relationships are also a source of many insights and truths for every family member. The same sincerity carries through to their relationships with those around them.
As some of the children have grown, they have carried the same “present” parenting into their own families. From the smallest details of how they prepare meals for their family, to the larger picture matters of building a family driven by a vision for a greater purpose, to even serve the world, they pour their intention and effort into every interaction they have with their children.
As parents we often underestimate the significance of the small interactions we have with our children. The parent-child relationship is the first intimate relationship that we experience, and the most formative. Meeting our child’s eye and hearing what their soul is trying to express is an important part of building the foundations of their character.