It’s surprising that, given all the amount of time we spend together, a lot of times families don’t know how to communicate with each other. And in many ways, they may not even know what the other members value, like, or want.

Here is a simple activity can be played with any kind of group but we think it’s a great way to get to know more about each other.

Materials: one bag of M&Ms, skittles or other colored candies, a small box (tissue box is fine) with a small opening, workbook and writing instrument.


  • Assign a task or question to each color. E.g., blue = what is your favorite book?; red = tell a favorite memory you have; yellow = name something you would like to try to do/go; brown = do something silly, etc. Have fun brainstorming different questions or tasks. Write it down so you don’t forget which color is which! You can change this every time you play this game. It is recommended that the parents might want to discuss beforehand different questions that might help them to better understand their children, relatives, etc.
  • Each person takes a turn picking a candy out of the box and share according to the color chart decided in the beginning.
  • Go two or three rounds.
  • Wrap up by discussing ways in which some of the responses surprised us. See if there are ways where we can plan a fun activity around someone’s favorite food/thing/memory, etc.

Different sample questions are as follows:

  1. What is something you always wanted to do?
  2. What one superpower would you want to have?
  3. What’s your favorite way to relax?
  4. What was your most memorable trip?
  5. What’s something that you worry about?
  6. Show the group a special talent/skill others might not know about.
  7. If you could meet anyone in the word – real, dead or alive – who would it be?

Post in the comments how the activity went. We’d love to hear from you.